Advise Please!!!!?

There is a married couple that we've been friends with for almost 10 years. They wanted to relocate from where they used to live to where we live, and asked us if we would take them in for a little while until they can get jobs and an apartment. I spoke with my husband and he gave it the OK. When they finally arrived they came with 2 HUGE dogs! (I have 2 little dogs in my house). I told them that those dogs had to stay outside. The first night the dogs were rowdy and since it was cold outside I allowed them to bring them into their room under the condition that during the day the dogs will remain outdoors. Well, now I have a "carpet" of dog hair all over my house!! While my hubby and I are working they keep the dogs inside despite of what I told them!! They have been looking for work but so far nothing. I've told them repeatedly to tie the dogs outside but they are oblivoius to my demands. I would hate to evict them from my house...and I don't want to kill their dogs. What should I do?

Advise Please!!!!?

They are probably just using you. You have to tell them to get a job, or they can go to the homeless shelter. They need to get a job even if it's working a Wendy's as a busboy, or cashier. They need a job for the time being.

Advise Please!!!!?

you need to talk to them and let them know how you feel. i know it's easier said than done. but that is what you have to do. I had somewhat of the same situation happen to my sister and what she and her husband did was gave them money to leave and told them to pay it back. they are still friends, but it all began with that talk. i don't know if it helps. if after talking to them and they still don't comply to your household rules about the dogs, and picking up, or still not have progressed in trying to get out of your home, tell them they need to leave. if they were good friends, they would not do this to you. hope everything works out. good luck.

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It sounds like they are taking advantage of your good fortune.

It's just awful how a good deed can turn into a disaster.

I would be "firm" with them again... sit them both down and tell them about the problems that are being caused with them living there.

You may lose them as friends in the end, but what good are they as friends when they are being inconsiderate and selfish of your generosity.

I would say enough is enough.... you have your own family to look out for... you don't need any more "children" to raise.

Advise Please!!!!?

This is a hard situation. I have been on both sides of it well kind of. I have been in your situation where I have taken people in who now won't leave. As far as your friends situation I had to stay with my grandma for a few months but I cleaned up after my self and did a little extra around the house to let her know I appreciated her. They are using you! Your first mistake how ever noble it was, was letting them move in. But since you did here's what works

1. You need to set a time frame for them to be out. They need to both be out of the house all day trying to find work. Point out that the average work day is 8 hrs and they should be spending at least that much time trying to find work.

2.Then give them a bus pass, gas is expensive right now and you should not be paying for it

3. Make a chore chart. You are paying for everything they should be doing something to earn their keep and help you around the house

4. buy the dogs some sweaters and a blanket and unless it's snowing or raining out they go. You have to take care of your dogs and your husband health first.

5. Don't Feel Guilty!!!! You've done your part as a friend now it's time for them to do their part in return.